Our Mission
You’re not broken - you’re just brilliantly programmed for something outdated.
At changewirk, we don’t fight your unconscious - we re-train it. New thoughts, new feelings, new life!
Change doesn’t have to take forever - and it doesn’t have to be painful. As a Master Practitioner of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), I work with the unconscious mind to help you shift the patterns that are quietly running your life. These patterns aren’t random - they’re brilliant adaptations you created long ago. But if they’re keeping you stuck, anxious, or unfulfilled, it’s time for an update.
Together, we’ll identify the hidden beliefs, stories, and emotional triggers that drive your thoughts and behaviors. You don’t have to relive the past or explain every painful detail - instead, we work with how your brain stores meaning now, and how to rewire it for peace, confidence, and clarity. Most clients feel a shift in our very first session. This work isn’t about coping - it’s about transforming.
Clients come to me for all kinds of reasons, but here are a few of the most common:
- Feeling stuck or lost in a life that looks “fine” on the outside
- People-pleasing, perfectionism, or self-sabotage
- Anxiety, overthinking, or emotional overwhelm
- Grief, heartbreak, or patterns from childhood that still hurt
- Fear of visibility, success, or taking the next big step
- Difficulty setting boundaries or asking for what you want
If you’re ready to feel more like yourself - not just a version of you that’s tolerating life - this work will meet you where you are and guide you forward. You don’t need to be perfect, clear, or even confident to start. You just need to be willing. And from there, everything can change.
NLP pre-suppositions
#1: The Map is not the Territory
#2: People Respond According to Their Maps
#2: People Respond According to Their Maps
The “map” is your mind’s internal representation of reality—your unique filter, shaped by emotion, memory, and meaning. The “territory,” on the other hand, is objective reality itself. Your brain builds this map to help you make sense of the world by highlighting key points: emotional landmarks, danger zones, shortcuts, and survival strategies. It’s efficient, not accurate. And most of it was drawn before you were even seven years old.
In those early years, your unconscious mind was wide open, absorbing patterns, beliefs, and rules from your environment—especially your caregivers and culture. This internal map became your default navigation system, silently guiding your thoughts, choices, and emotional responses. The trouble is, most people never update that map. So here we are, navigating adult challenges—relationships, careers, self-worth—with a system built for a child's survival.
And when things don’t go well, we often try to fix the surface—the “territory”—without realizing the real issue is in the outdated map itself. In NLP, we work directly with that internal map, helping you redraw the routes so you can finally move forward without getting lost in the same old loops.
#2: People Respond According to Their Maps
#2: People Respond According to Their Maps
#2: People Respond According to Their Maps
Your unconscious mind is the first to process the world around you—long before your conscious mind gets involved. It uses your internal map—your mental blueprint of reality—to assign meaning, emotional tone, and relevance to what you’re experiencing. It pulls from stored memories, filters incoming sensory data, and decides—almost instantly—what’s worth your attention.
Every second, you're bombarded with sights, sounds, sensations, and signals. And yet, you only consciously register a fraction of it. Why? Because your unconscious is sorting, prioritizing, and editing in real time, surfacing only what it believes is important based on your early programming. It does all this using the internal map you built in childhood—shaped by beliefs, experiences, and emotional associations formed before you even had words for most of it.
The problem is, that map hasn’t always been updated. So your unconscious keeps directing your thoughts, reactions, and choices according to outdated rules—often without your awareness. It’s not working against you; it’s just trying to protect you using old data.
If you want new results, don’t waste energy fighting your thoughts or forcing new habits. Instead, change the map—and your mind will follow.
#3: Meaning Operates Context-Dependently
#2: People Respond According to Their Maps
#4: Mind-and-body inevitability and inescapably affect each other
In NLP, we often say: If someone or something really triggers you, it’s time to do change work on yourself. That can feel frustrating to hear—because let’s be honest, sometimes people really are behaving badly. And when clients say, “It’s not me, it’s them! I don’t want to excuse what they’re doing,” they’re not wrong. But that’s not the point. Doing inner work isn’t about letting others off the hook—it’s about getting yourself off the hook of being emotionally entangled with them.
Here’s why: our unconscious “maps” are not formed in isolation. They’re shaped through relationships, early dynamics, and emotional roles—and those maps become magnets for familiar patterns. Think back to the CEO metaphor: each “employee” (a part of your unconscious mind) has a job to do. It’s magnetic—it attracts people and situations that help it fulfill that job, and it repels anything that threatens its strategy.
So when someone consistently upsets you or pulls a strong emotional response out of you, chances are a part of your mind is using that interaction to confirm something it already believes: that you're not safe, not good enough, not heard, or that conflict equals connection.
Once we shift the unconscious need to keep having that experience—once the employee retires or gets reassigned—the dynamic either fades away, or you experience it in an entirely different way. And that’s the magic of NLP: the world might stay the same, but you no longer live in the same world.
#4: Mind-and-body inevitability and inescapably affect each other
#4: Mind-and-body inevitability and inescapably affect each other
#4: Mind-and-body inevitability and inescapably affect each other
This idea - that the mind plays a larger role in our health, behavior, and perception than we realize - isn’t just speculation. It’s scientifically acknowledged, especially in the field of medicine. In fact, every well-designed clinical trial includes a control group specifically to measure the placebo effect - the phenomenon where people experience real, measurable changes in their health simply because they believe they’re receiving treatment.
That’s powerful. The placebo effect has been shown to influence everything from pain reduction and immune response to mood regulation and recovery time. Brain imaging studies have even shown that placebo treatments can activate the same neural pathways as actual drugs.
So what does that mean for us? It means the mind isn’t just passively reacting to the world - it’s actively shaping your experience of it. Your beliefs, expectations, and unconscious programming are influencing not only how you feel, but how your body functions.
I encourage you to stay open to the idea that your mind might be running more of the show than you think - and that’s not a weakness. That’s your leverage point for change.
#5: Every behavior has utility and usefulness - in some context
#4: Mind-and-body inevitability and inescapably affect each other
#6: We evaluate behavior & change in terms of context and ecology
The NLP model is built on a foundational assumption: all behavior, no matter how unhelpful or destructive it may seem, is driven by a positive intent. That doesn't mean the behavior itself is good, moral, or even conscious—it simply means that at some point, it served a purpose. Often, that purpose was rooted in early survival or emotional regulation, based on the internal map a person developed as a child.
For example, a habit like people-pleasing might have once kept someone safe in a chaotic or critical household. Over time, the mind associates that behavior with safety, even if it now leads to burnout, resentment, or lack of boundaries. This is where NLP steps in.
Rather than trying to fight or suppress the unwanted behavior, NLP gently uncovers the unconscious reason it exists—its original “usefulness.” When we help the unconscious mind realize that the old behavior is no longer needed, the behavior can shift effortlessly. Why? Because the unconscious no longer assigns value to it.
And when the need disappears, the behavior often changes instantly—and permanently—without force, shame, or years of struggle. That’s the power of working at the level where real change lives: the unconscious mind.
#6: We evaluate behavior & change in terms of context and ecology
#4: Mind-and-body inevitability and inescapably affect each other
#6: We evaluate behavior & change in terms of context and ecology
We’re all shaped within systems—usually our families—which create an internal ecology: a set of emotional roles, beliefs, and behaviors that helped us adapt. When we leave that system, we often unconsciously recreate a similar one elsewhere. Even if it was unhealthy, it feels familiar—and the unconscious favors familiar over functional.
NLP helps us make rapid, lasting change. But deep personal change can shift the balance in our relationships, and others may react. That’s not a reason to avoid growth—it’s a call to stay aware. Every change has an ecological ripple, and we get to decide whether the impact is ultimately useful or not.
The goal isn’t just to escape a negative environment—because if the unconscious programming stays the same, we tend to recreate the same dynamics somewhere else. NLP works by changing the driver underneath the pattern, like low self-worth or fear of abandonment. Once that need dissolves, the behavior—and the environment—shifts too.
One of the clearest signs of transformation is when your environment changes without you trying to change it. Your unconscious begins to repel what no longer serves and attract what aligns. We don’t force people to mistreat us—but some part of us may be inviting them to stay… until we outgrow the need for it.
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